哀痛之后⋯⋯

Doris（莫瑞英）已经离世七年多了。去年，许多亲爱的朋友也受了同样失去亲人的痛苦。

其中一位是Albert，他是我结婚时的伴郎，但他去年年尾失去了妻子Grace。另一位是我的导师邓灼文牧师（Herman Tang），他去年一月失去了妻子Eleanor。

今年农历新年过后，邓牧师来香港时，我问他：「师傅还好吗？」他回答说：「此事太痛苦了，我不想谈。」（It’s too painful, I don’t want to talk about it.）

我不能为我的导师做太多事情，但我突然想起我失去太太后预备了一次「哀伤」的讲座，所以我把讲座（preachchrist.livejournal.com）内容寄给了他。邓牧师回答说：「Victor，谢谢你的分享。这是我读过的关于个人哀悼的最好的文章。感谢你发自内心的真诚分享。」

这几年我经常思考人生的目的，我的想法是：
1. 寻找生命的意义和使命。(Look for life’s mission and purpose)
2. 身为管家和导师的身份生活。(Live as lifetime ministers and mentors)
3. 留下活的标记和信息。(Leave behind living markers and messages)

撰文／叶福成牧师 (Victor)

 

The Mourning after......

It’s been more than seven years since Doris’ loss. Last year many dear friends suffered the same loss of loved ones.

One of them was Albert, the best man at my wedding, who suffered the loss of his wife Grace near the end of the year. Another was my mentor Herman Tang, who lost his wife Eleanor at the beginning of the year.

When Herman visited me in Hong Kong after the recent Chinese New Year, I asked him, “How are you doing sifu?” He replied, “It’s too painful, I don’t want to talk about it.”

I could not do much for my mentor but I suddenly remembered I gave a thoughtful talk about my loss, so I sent it to him.（preachchrist.livejournal.com） Herman replied, “Victor, thank you for sharing. This is the best article on personal mourning I have read. Thank you for sharing so honestly from your heart.” 

I have often think about the purpose of life these few years and here are my thoughts:
1. Look for life’s meaning and mission.
2. Live as lifetime ministers and mentors.
3. Leave behind living markers and messages.