哀痛之後⋯⋯

Doris（莫瑞英）已經離世七年多了。去年，許多親愛的朋友也受了同樣失去親人的痛苦。

其中一位是Albert，他是我結婚時的伴郎，但他去年年尾失去了妻子Grace。另一位是我的導師鄧灼文牧師（Herman Tang），他去年一月失去了妻子Eleanor。

今年農曆新年過後，鄧牧師來香港時，我問他：「師傅還好嗎？」他回答說：「此事太痛苦了，我不想談。」（It’s too painful, I don’t want to talk about it.）

我不能為我的導師做太多事情，但我突然想起我失去太太後預備了一次「哀傷」的講座，所以我把講座（preachchrist.livejournal.com）內容寄給了他。鄧牧師回答說：「Victor，謝謝你的分享。這是我讀過的關於個人哀悼的最好的文章。感謝你發自內心的真誠分享。」

這幾年我經常思考人生的目的，我的想法是：
1. 尋找生命的意義和使命。(Look for life’s mission and purpose)
2. 身為管家和導師的身份生活。(Live as lifetime ministers and mentors)
3. 留下活的標記和信息。(Leave behind living markers and messages)

撰文／葉福成牧師 (Victor)

 

The Mourning after......

It’s been more than seven years since Doris’ loss. Last year many dear friends suffered the same loss of loved ones.

One of them was Albert, the best man at my wedding, who suffered the loss of his wife Grace near the end of the year. Another was my mentor Herman Tang, who lost his wife Eleanor at the beginning of the year.

When Herman visited me in Hong Kong after the recent Chinese New Year, I asked him, “How are you doing sifu?” He replied, “It’s too painful, I don’t want to talk about it.”

I could not do much for my mentor but I suddenly remembered I gave a thoughtful talk about my loss, so I sent it to him.（preachchrist.livejournal.com） Herman replied, “Victor, thank you for sharing. This is the best article on personal mourning I have read. Thank you for sharing so honestly from your heart.” 

I have often think about the purpose of life these few years and here are my thoughts:
1. Look for life’s meaning and mission.
2. Live as lifetime ministers and mentors.
3. Leave behind living markers and messages.